So after a few weeks of avoiding Stanley, he sent me an email.
It was ugly, mean and nonsensical.
All about how miserable he is because he is broke and how he has to take back fiscal responsibility. Which means we have to sell the house (which we will get nothing in this market) oh and by the way, since he pays the bulk of the mortgage he will be living in it while it sells and I can visit the children on weekends.
Apparently he has forgotten all about the court documents.
Umm, no, you can live in it the days you are scheduled to be with the kids.
I've been upset for 2 days. Can't eat (a good thing), Can't sleep (a bad thing).
Because even though it was stupid and he can't do it, it still hurt me.
He must have decided (or the girlfriend did) that we don't need an amicable relationship and that the stability of the kids doesn't matter after all. Btw, he doesn't even give Jumping Bean her ADHD meds half the time he has her. She got in the car on Monday when I picked her up from school and I could tell immediately and she said, "Daddy just can't remember."
(Looking for a picture of a monkey with his head up his ass)
This will have to do.
I'm too sick inside to be funny.
So after much shit slinging from him that I wanted the divorce and should have thought about the stability of the kids before I decided to give up on our marriage, I have sent an email saying that I want to talk rationally about compromises we can make. We'll see what kind of response I get. I don't think he is getting advice from anyone with half a brain. And I do think he is getting advice. Oh yes. New women do not like it that divorced men have to pay child support and have previous obligations. I don't like it either that Al has to do it. You want your new man to have money! But I do respect that he has commitments and I absolutely respect the way he takes care of his kids financially even when he goes without.
I'm in keep kids safe mode and thinking about selling my gold and rings.
Anybody have any tips about dealing with this?